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how hot people communicate

November 05, 2025

The glow up is verbal

Lately, I’ve been trying to get better at how I speak— in meetings, in 1:1 conversations, all the time.

A few things I noticed in myself:

  • Not articulating clearly enough

  • Lowkey mumbling??

  • Speaking too fast or letting my words slosh together

  • Using the same 3 adjectives to describe everything

And no, no one at work told me this. I just heard myself once and was like… wait. Is that my voice? 😭

If you wanna be hot you need to be a good communicator.

In a world where everyone is craving more authenticity and clarity, being able to express your ideas with intention is a superpower

It’s easy to psych yourself out about speaking when there are a lot of people around…especially people you see as important

Idk if it’s just my frontal lobe developing, but one day I had the realization that they are literally just people. Obvi respect them, but you don’t need to give them power over your confidence, queen.

So if you too have fallen victim to speaking in brain rot, incomplete sentences, or you’ve just been curious how you’ve been showing up in convos and meetings…this one is for you

My credentials? I love to talk & I got this Slack message this week:

she does!

Here’s what I’m doing:

  1. Read out loud! Reading in your head = skimming. Reading out loud forces clarity and for your to articulate all the words. No wonder they made us do popcorn reading in middle school!!
     

  2. Using more specific words: You don’t sound smarter if you use bigger words, but if you use more specific words that can more clearly describe what you’re trying to say

    “This works better” → “This will be more impactful”

    “That sounds weird” → “That feels confusing / distracting”
     

  3. Pause more. & don’t feel like you have to rush through everything you say all the time. Tone, pace, inflection, silences, etc all contribute to communicating in a 1:1 setting, but also in meetings and bigger groups.
     

  4.  PERIODDD. Complete your sentences and end them with a period. Don’t trail off or hope someone will connect the dots. Speak in absolutes 🫡

me when I say “impactful” instead of “better”

How we’re unrotting our brain this week? Implement a word of the day

Use the word 3 times in 3 different contexts, in your head or out loud.

Get the vocabulary app and add it as a widget on your home screen :)

—maxxing = a suffix used on any word to indicate you’re doing something to the maximum extent

a few examples:

looksmaxxing = glowing up + doing the most to look good

sleepmaxxing = you are trying have the best sleep possible

you may also hear the term “mogging” with “-maxxing,” meaning you outshined/dominated someone else in something.