Storytime: new ick unlocked

A few weeks ago, I went on a date with this guy and he did one thing that completely changed my view of him.

He had been hyping up this cumbia class he was going to with his friends. Like, really hyping it up—"I signed up a few weeks ago," "I’m so excited," the whole deal. So naturally, the next time I saw him I asked how it went.

And he goes, “Oh, I didn’t end up going. Both my friends cancelled, and I didn’t want to go alone.”

BRUH 😭

Not to be dramatic, but at the ripe age of 31, you’re really not going to do something you want to do just because you’d have to do it alone? SIDE EYE

Maybe I was extra icked because that same week I did the exact same thing…I went to an improv comedy class by myself: a new, kind of uncomfortable experience that I almost chickened out of (but didn’t) 💅

If I can do it, you can do it too, king.

Don’t worry though, I was nice to him! I told him “Yeah, it’s hard to do new things alone, especially for the first time!” Which is true. But also…do it anyway.

Suffice it to say, that was the last time I ever saw him. He also told me that same day that he didn’t like newsletters (a crime, frankly), and that’s when I really knew it was over.

I talk a lot in this newsletter about being the best version of yourself…and to me, that really comes down to being someone you can trust.

You build that trust by keeping promises to yourself and proving to yourself you can do hard and uncomfortable things even when no one else is around.

Small acts of discipline add up over time and they really shape how you see yourself and how you show up day to day.

It’s always easier not to do a new thing or to stay in whatever is comfortable.

Discipline is hot. Doing what you say you’re going to do is hot.

And if you don’t? You’ll probably end up like my friend here and fumble a baddie.

See you next week!!

Xoxo,

Bella Rose